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LIFE | Hello, I Am An Introvert

12:00:00 AM Arianne 9 Comments


I was driving home from a lively day at work and I felt quite tired and drained. Then, I remember an intelligent woman telling me about introverts. They prefer to internalize energy and productively create something from it, rather than spending that energy on other people.

When I heard that, everything in my mind became clear. There is nothing wrong with me. I am introverted and that is simply who I am. It is not a flaw, and it is not a disability. Yes, I have anxiety, but that's just a cherry on top of my glowing personality, isn't it?

Also as a result of being an introvert, I do not believe in small talk. Why waste energy on such trivial nonsense? If I don't care about something, why would I pretend to care just to be part of society?

Well, I say life is too short not to spend it wisely. Parties have no appeal to me. Reading a book in my cozy bed in solitude appeals to me. I'm not weird. I'm not a freak. Simply, I am an introvert.


How about you?

9 comments:

  1. OMG yes to everything in this post! The same thing happened to me and it all made sense. I used to think there was just something wrong with me because I didn't talk as much as other people. Now I realize it was just because I didn't feel the need to. Great post!
    Steph x.
    marvelsteph.blogspot.co.nz

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    1. I'm so glad you could relate! Thanks for stopping by!

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  2. Reading a book in peace sounds perfect to me! :)

    Velvet Blush

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    1. I like to just get lost in a story sometimes :)

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  3. Hear, hear! I'm from a loud and boisterous Wog family, and I'm called a snob on a regular basis by my family members, just because I keep to myself at parties and rarely enjoy them. When I explain that I'm not a snob, but that I find social interaction very exhausting, they go on to call me antisocial. You have no idea how frustrating it is to try and get them to stop me from participating, let alone force me to attend weddings and parties. It's so hard sometimes, especially when I have trouble verbally articulating my feelings, and have no idea how to start up a conversation with someone. Nonetheless, I like my solitude, I love being alone, doing my own thing, exploring the world on my own and I wouldn't change myself for anything.

    Stephanie
    thethriftyvegetarian.com

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    1. Sometimes I feel like I could possibly be in between... Because I did acting in university, I feel like I can turn on an extrovert personality if I wanted to, but it really is so exhausting. And being the lazy bum that I am, I always like to be an introvert because I don't feel like putting in the effort of being an extrovert lol

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    2. I used to do a little bit of acting when I was in primary school and had a lot of confidence on stage while performing, but nowadays I'm very awkward and shy away from addressing large crowds, because of a few traumatic experiences during those years. I'm socially awkward, but in a one on one conversation, I can be really loud and forget myself, especially when somewhat inebriated. Still, looking at people in the eyes, meeting people on a regular basis, trying to keep up with a conversation, is all very exhausting for me.

      I guarantee you that if I told my family exactly what introverted means, as in not using energy on people, but rather on creative projects, they'll just translate that as "Oh, she thinks we're not worth the energy, what a snob." I can never win.

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  4. Omg yes!!! I agree with this so much! I hate small talk it has no purpose! I find it really hard to make eye contact with people as well which makes the situation more awkward! It's seem to be the norm to be an extrovert but I personally love being more introverted x

    http://thriftyvintagefashion.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. I'm so glad you can relate!!! This makes me happy :) I find it really hard to make eye contact when I'm feeling anxious or insecure with myself. I wish I could be an extrovert, but then if I was, I might not have all the creative juices I have now as an introvert ;)

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